Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret

“Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened.  I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments.  Results clearly show they do… Continue Reading

The Attachment Dilemma; A big lesson

In the past, Carol and I planned, organized, and facilitated weekend workshops for couples. The expectation was to have 15 couples together for an enlightening learning experience, as well as for them to have a celebration of the work they were doing in their relationships. I found it extremely challenging to market these to capacity. … Continue Reading

Trust Is A Must

You and I know that trust is important in all relationships; with ourselves, our partners, kids, and in our workplace. But what is it? As a verb (Cambridge Dictionary), trust is to believe that someone is good and honest and will not harm you, or that something is safe and reliable. As a noun, trust… Continue Reading

Lessons From a Six-Year-Old

I’ve been volunteering with the Summer Reading Program at our local library where I learned some valuable lessons from a six-year-old. We were writing some stories that needed to include specific words. A young man asked, “How do you spell there?” One of the library staff inquired about what type of ‘there’ he meant. He… Continue Reading

Life-long Learning in Relationships

Life!! The more I learn about it, the more I realize how little I know. Especially when it comes to relationships – the foundation of any family or business. Today, what have you learned about the people you love? Asking good questions, listening, and learning deepens the trust. We invite you to send us a… Continue Reading

Hearing Aids Don’t Mean I Understand You

Just because I hear, it doesn’t mean I understand. Have you had that experience? Insight: After countless experiences of having to ask, ”I beg your pardon?” or “Could you please repeat that?” or simply, “Huh?”, I finally got hearing aids. Other than marriage to Carol, this is one of the best decisions I’ve made. Or… Continue Reading