Who Do You Love Most – Your Dog Or …?

That may seem like a stupid question.  But it is one worth considering, isn’t it? If you don’t have a dog, but have a cat or horse or pet tarantula, the same applies.  If you don’t have a pet, I invite you to play along with me anyway. Maybe the pet you can’t live without… Read more »

Celebration Time For You, Isn’t It?

“We’re curious to know how you have celebrated the great work you’re doing?” This is a typical question we ask when we are working with coaching clients (individuals or couples). The typical response is, “What do you mean by celebrate?” I don’t know about you, but for us, it can be too easy to get caught up… Read more »

Persistence, Commitment, Strength? Or Living Life – Just Because?

Stories of hardship, of overcoming surmountable obstacles, of winning in spite of unfathomable challenges; these are the stories that grab people by the heart.  You and I hear about them at conferences, watch them in movies, read about them in novels and non-fiction autobiographies.  They seem to stir up emotions and thoughts such as, “If… Read more »

Why Can’t He/She Understand Me? – 10 Simple Steps

In our coaching practice, we’d be wealthy if we received one dollar for every time we’ve heard the question in the title. Additionally, I may be nearing Warren Buffett’s status if I received a dollar every time I thought it. The biggest problem with this question is that it puts the blame on the other… Read more »

3 Timely Tips For, “We Need To Talk”

“Dan, we need to talk.” It’s not the most joyous thing to hear, is it?   In fact, it sucks.  When I hear those words, my heart falls into my boots.  And I’m thinking:  “What’s wrong? What did I do?” So I respond, “Talk?  Now?  Can we do it later, like next month, or next year? … Read more »

How Can You Stop Making Bad Decisions?

Ever had a time when you made a decision that turned out to be a really bad one? And when you reflect back to that decision point, you remember feeling a bit “off” about it? Example: Carol and I walked into the lawyer’s office to meet our friend, John (name changed).  We had agreed to… Read more »

What Does Happiness Mean? And Are You?

My dog, Jack, bounds onto the step, tail wagging wildly as I step outside.  “Want to come   along for a ski?” His legs become springs and he explodes straight up in the air – he can look me in the eye. Then he tears off down the trail scooping snow in his mouth.  I… Read more »

Valentine’s Day? Oohh, You Won’t Do THAT, Will You?

Next to Christmas and Halloween, Valentine’s Day is the biggest money maker of the year for retailers.  Billions of dollars are spent on influential marketing, which turns into sales volumes exponential to those marketing efforts. All for gifts for one single day. I’m not opposed to gift giving.  In fact, I believe that giving gifts… Read more »

Trust: Are You Building – Or Destroying?

A key concept in many of my keynote presentations is “Trust.” And with coaching clients, trust is always at the root of their challenges and also a big part of the solutions they choose. Trust is a foundational concept of life and is the most critical and delicate component in any relationship. In presentations, I… Read more »

What is the “right” thing to do?

When you do something, is your choice because: it’s what you want for your own gain? it’s what you think others want you to do? it’s what you think will make you look good? it’s what will make others look good? Or do you consciously make your choice because it’s the “right” thing to do?… Read more »