Category Archives: Marriage Help

Curiosity: One Skill That Will Save Your Marriage

You may be thinking, “How can curiosity save a marriage?” BINGO.  Just that one question can kick the pre-frontal cortex of your brain into gear to find better answers and solutions to any challenge you may face in your relationship. The challenge is that most of us have not been trained to ask good questions. … Continue Reading

Clarity Creates Confidence; Confusion Causes Chaos

I invite you to read the title one more time.  I invite you to consider how clarity and confusion affect your relationship with your partner at home. Is the statement true for you? Carol and I attended a workshop which focused on creating an accountable workplace culture.  Accountability expert, Greg Bustin, shared many gems, such… Continue Reading

Finally Retired, And Now You Want A Divorce???

Divorce rates within the older population are rising.  Dang! Based on historical research, Statistics Canada projected the life expectancy for the Canadian population in 2017 to be 79 years for men and 83 years for women.  I have no idea if their projections were accurate, however, we know that people are living a heck of… Continue Reading

Living Accountably: The Unkept Secret To Relationship Success

How does your level of accountability affect your relationship with your partner? The video below will give you pointed points to ponder. So……… Accountability.  On a scale of 1 to 10 where would you place yourself, with 1 being not accoutable at all.  Life happens to you and there is nothing you can do about… Continue Reading

What You Were Told As A Kid Doesn’t Work: The Art & Science of Word Use

Remember the ditty, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me”? Totally ridiculous, wasn’t it? The phrase would supposedly protect us from verbal attacks on the playground at school. If you think about the flip-side of the phrase, it means it’s OK for the bully to use verbal attacks. After… Continue Reading

Your Relationship With Your Partner: It’s the small things that count

Your relationship with your partner is likely the most important relationship you will ever have.  It is wise to review and revise your “attention strategy” to ensure long-term success.  Otherwise, its too easy to take each other for granted and … ah, just read on and watch the video. When we coach with couples, there… Continue Reading

Your Relationship: Is It Functional, Adaptable, or Sustainable?

Life, as we experience it now, is functional, adaptable, or sustainable. In other words, our society produces what we need to function – food, shelter, clothing, and all the things we need to survive. At an unconscious level, we only want peace and happiness, yet these basics just don’t cut it. That’s a problem. So,… Continue Reading

Retreat in Nature: Healing power and honest conversation

Our world is a busy place.  Yet if you take the time to get out in nature, there is healing power in being unplugged from technology and away from distractions.  As a couple, it stimulates honest, open communication and strengthens your relationship, if you are willing to be a bit vulnerable.  It is worth the… Continue Reading

A Single Word Can Muck Up Your Relationship: a need for awareness and honesty

When coaching with couples, we usually ask if they know their partner’s hot buttons – words, a look, an expression that sends the partner into defensiveness, anger, withholding, or running. The answer is always “yes.” A really simple way to improve your relationship is to stop pushing those buttons.  Easier said than done.  As well… Continue Reading

Job Jar: A simple family tool for empowerment, collaboration, pride, and fun

When coaching with couples (especially those with young children), we often hear concerns about household tasks that don’t get done, or resentment about which person needs to do them. The resentments are often due to unmet and uncommunicated expectations about “the way it should be.” Yet, at the core, these parents usually share a common… Continue Reading