Category Archives: Personal Relationships

It’s Perfect To Be Naturally Imperfect: Relationship lessons from a grocery store

On my way home from Edmonton, I stopped into a large grocery store to pick up some items.  We mostly support our local businesses in Sangudo, so this was unusual for me. I was intrigued by a section of the produce department that was marketing “Naturally Imperfect” items.  There was something about the attributes of… Continue Reading

The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve

I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.”  Hmmm?  It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue.  Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Continue Reading

What Is Your Relationship Worth To You?

Your relationship with your partner/spouse is likely the most important relationship you will ever have. I’ll be so bold as to say it is an asset, or investment that will either provide you the HUGEST return, or be a big loser.  The cool thing is, you get to choose your return by your daily thoughts, words,… Continue Reading

Is A Perspective Shift Needed For You?

Where in your life would a slight shift of perspective make a significant difference in the quality of your relationships and your results? The choice: to get bitter or get better. A few years a go, I attended a series of intense Neuro Linguistic Programming classes to become a Master Practitioner of this modality.  One… Continue Reading

What Small Things Positively Affect Your Relationship?

Are you looking for a silver bullet?  Something that will fix your relationship right now, or yesterday? Relationships are much like business.  Overnight success takes 10 or 20 years. What seemingly small things do you do everyday (or regularly) that work for you?  Please share them in the comments section so we can have a… Continue Reading

Drama Addiction: Is it a resource-sucker for you?

I’ve not seen any research about the social and economic impacts of drama-addiction.  Have you?  Like any addiction, there is a huge cost. Maybe there is no qualitative or quantitative research because most of us are so immersed in our dramas, we don’t even recognize it’s a problem. I invite you to step back from… Continue Reading

Is Your Relationship Losing The Device War?

Walking in West Edmonton Mall recently, we were more acutely aware of the device war that seems to be escalating in our society. This device war is destroying intimate relationships, families, communities, businesses, and maybe the world (based on what we see and hear about our political leaders).  A new-age world war, maybe?  What do… Continue Reading

How Are You Caring For The Soil In Your Relationship?

Hey, don’t let your mind wander as you read the title.  I’m defining soil as what your relationship grows in, not the …… well, you know. Although we don’t farm full-time anymore, we graze and market some natural grass-fed beef on our property.  We’ve got a genuine and respectful attachment to nature, and a concern… Continue Reading

Forgiveness: The only real job you and I have

Forgiveness is art and a science.  Art because it takes creativity.  Science because if stimulates physiological and neurological healing and change. That aside, I believe in my deepest core that forgiveness is the most important and meaningful task you and I have in our lives.  Why? Forgive is for-giving love I’m not a religious guy. … Continue Reading

Curiosity: One Skill That Will Save Your Marriage

You may be thinking, “How can curiosity save a marriage?” BINGO.  Just that one question can kick the pre-frontal cortex of your brain into gear to find better answers and solutions to any challenge you may face in your relationship. The challenge is that most of us have not been trained to ask good questions. … Continue Reading