Category Archives: Professional Relationships

Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret

“Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened.  I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments.  Results clearly show they do… Continue Reading

The Attachment Dilemma; A big lesson

In the past, Carol and I planned, organized, and facilitated weekend workshops for couples. The expectation was to have 15 couples together for an enlightening learning experience, as well as for them to have a celebration of the work they were doing in their relationships. I found it extremely challenging to market these to capacity. … Continue Reading

Lessons From a Six-Year-Old

I’ve been volunteering with the Summer Reading Program at our local library where I learned some valuable lessons from a six-year-old. We were writing some stories that needed to include specific words. A young man asked, “How do you spell there?” One of the library staff inquired about what type of ‘there’ he meant. He… Continue Reading

Life-long Learning in Relationships

Life!! The more I learn about it, the more I realize how little I know. Especially when it comes to relationships – the foundation of any family or business. Today, what have you learned about the people you love? Asking good questions, listening, and learning deepens the trust. We invite you to send us a… Continue Reading

Hearing Aids Don’t Mean I Understand You

Just because I hear, it doesn’t mean I understand. Have you had that experience? Insight: After countless experiences of having to ask, ”I beg your pardon?” or “Could you please repeat that?” or simply, “Huh?”, I finally got hearing aids. Other than marriage to Carol, this is one of the best decisions I’ve made. Or… Continue Reading

Caring Creates Communication: 3 principles for happiness

How does caring affect communication?  I invite you to notice similarities in the next 4 paragraphs? When coaching with couples, typically a huge amount of time is invested supporting them to create strategies to communicate effectively, so both people feel heard, understood, and cared for. When coaching executives and entrepreneurs, typically a huge amount of… Continue Reading

It’s Perfect To Be Naturally Imperfect: Relationship lessons from a grocery store

On my way home from Edmonton, I stopped into a large grocery store to pick up some items.  We mostly support our local businesses in Sangudo, so this was unusual for me. I was intrigued by a section of the produce department that was marketing “Naturally Imperfect” items.  There was something about the attributes of… Continue Reading

The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve

I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.”  Hmmm?  It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue.  Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Continue Reading

Is A Perspective Shift Needed For You?

Where in your life would a slight shift of perspective make a significant difference in the quality of your relationships and your results? The choice: to get bitter or get better. A few years a go, I attended a series of intense Neuro Linguistic Programming classes to become a Master Practitioner of this modality.  One… Continue Reading