Tag: Carol Ohler

Relationship Training? Why Not?

Relationship training in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic? Why not? Many people are having much more time at home, with their partner, and possibly with kids. (check out the video below) Whether you are in “work-from-home” mode, reduced hours, laid off, or simply because other public events and activities aren’t allowed, this could be… Read more »

The Miracle of Marriage – Or Is It? 4 communication basics for any relationship

Does something miraculous happen when two people get married?  Or is it the communication within the marriage that breeds success? Hmmm? We have two amazing sons, Jamie and Brad. They are incredibly intelligent, creative, kind, respectful, and accountable – leaders in their communities and in our world.  Despite our parental foibles, we must have done… Read more »

Lessons From a Six-Year-Old

I’ve been volunteering with the Summer Reading Program at our local library where I learned some valuable lessons from a six-year-old. We were writing some stories that needed to include specific words. A young man asked, “How do you spell there?” One of the library staff inquired about what type of ‘there’ he meant. He… Read more »

Caring Creates Communication: 3 principles for happiness

How does caring affect communication?  I invite you to notice similarities in the next 4 paragraphs? When coaching with couples, typically a huge amount of time is invested supporting them to create strategies to communicate effectively, so both people feel heard, understood, and cared for. When coaching executives and entrepreneurs, typically a huge amount of… Read more »

It’s Perfect To Be Naturally Imperfect: Relationship lessons from a grocery store

On my way home from Edmonton, I stopped into a large grocery store to pick up some items.  We mostly support our local businesses in Sangudo, so this was unusual for me. I was intrigued by a section of the produce department that was marketing “Naturally Imperfect” items.  There was something about the attributes of… Read more »

The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve

I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.”  Hmmm?  It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue.  Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Read more »

What Is Your Relationship Worth To You?

Your relationship with your partner/spouse is likely the most important relationship you will ever have. I’ll be so bold as to say it is an asset, or investment that will either provide you the HUGEST return, or be a big loser.  The cool thing is, you get to choose your return by your daily thoughts, words,… Read more »

Is A Perspective Shift Needed For You?

Where in your life would a slight shift of perspective make a significant difference in the quality of your relationships and your results? The choice: to get bitter or get better. A few years a go, I attended a series of intense Neuro Linguistic Programming classes to become a Master Practitioner of this modality.  One… Read more »

What Small Things Positively Affect Your Relationship?

Are you looking for a silver bullet?  Something that will fix your relationship right now, or yesterday? Relationships are much like business.  Overnight success takes 10 or 20 years. What seemingly small things do you do everyday (or regularly) that work for you?  Please share them in the comments section so we can have a… Read more »

Drama Addiction: Is it a resource-sucker for you?

I’ve not seen any research about the social and economic impacts of drama-addiction.  Have you?  Like any addiction, there is a huge cost. Maybe there is no qualitative or quantitative research because most of us are so immersed in our dramas, we don’t even recognize it’s a problem. I invite you to step back from… Read more »