Tag: marriage coaching

Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret

“Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened.  I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments.  Results clearly show they do… Read more »

What is Success in Your Relationship?

How do you define success in your relationship? How does your partner define it?  Have you had that conversation? To create greater success in your relationship, and to give yourselves time and space to talk about it, we invite you to consider attending the Rocky Mountain Couples Retreate on March 6 – 8, 2020, at… Read more »

What Is Your Relationship Worth To You?

Your relationship with your partner/spouse is likely the most important relationship you will ever have. I’ll be so bold as to say it is an asset, or investment that will either provide you the HUGEST return, or be a big loser.  The cool thing is, you get to choose your return by your daily thoughts, words,… Read more »

What Small Things Positively Affect Your Relationship?

Are you looking for a silver bullet?  Something that will fix your relationship right now, or yesterday? Relationships are much like business.  Overnight success takes 10 or 20 years. What seemingly small things do you do everyday (or regularly) that work for you?  Please share them in the comments section so we can have a… Read more »

Curiosity: One Skill That Will Save Your Marriage

You may be thinking, “How can curiosity save a marriage?” BINGO.  Just that one question can kick the pre-frontal cortex of your brain into gear to find better answers and solutions to any challenge you may face in your relationship. The challenge is that most of us have not been trained to ask good questions. … Read more »

Clarity Creates Confidence; Confusion Causes Chaos

I invite you to read the title one more time.  I invite you to consider how clarity and confusion affect your relationship with your partner at home. Is the statement true for you? Carol and I attended a workshop which focused on creating an accountable workplace culture.  Accountability expert, Greg Bustin, shared many gems, such… Read more »

Marriage? Honesty Ensures Longevity

Regularly we have a dialogue with one of the partners in a relationship, and the words go like this: “I just found out that he/she is ready to leave. I had no idea it was so bad.” How does this happen? There are always many stories, yet the fact is: honest communication has not occurred…. Read more »

Focused Time Will Make It Fine: It’s a juggling act

Where does your relationship with your partner fit on your list of priorities? Weird question because I don’t have a written list of my priorities in life (roles).  Do you? Yet if we evaluate how we distribute our time, effort, and attention, it is very clear that you and I DO have an unconscious list… Read more »

On Valentine’s Day, Just Be Nice!!

Valentine’s Day, every February 14, is a day to celebrate Love and affection. Why do we need a day designated for that?  That’s ludicrous, don’t you think? The greeting card companies love it.  The candy companies love it.  Flower shops love it. Fancy restaurants love it.  Many of them rake in millions of dollars every… Read more »

1% Victories for Relationship Excellence

“How can I fix my relationship?” We hear this regularly in phone calls, emails, and from coaching clients. Unfortunately, a relationship is not like a car, where you fix it by putting in new spark plugs, changing the brake pads, or installing a new sensor.  That said, I know some people who would graphically tell… Read more »