Tag: marriage counseling

Anger: A Curse Or An Ally

A story from long time ago when anger was not my ally.  I wish I’d have known how to deal effectively with anger. It was a teenage party at a public campground. Joking and laughing around a campfire. My best friend, Tim, dropped his empty beer bottle on the ground and stomped on it, breaking… Read more »

Emotional Awareness: A life-changer

Emotional awareness?  Or more specifically, what are you feeling right now? You may be thinking, “It doesn’t really matter what I’m feeling.  It’s what I’m doing that is most important.” I believe most of us experience life backwards.  We do activities, experience situations, hear conversations, and allow those things to “make” us feel whatever we’re… Read more »

Conflict In Our Relationship? It’s A Good Thing

You might be thinking, “No, Dan, conflict is NOT a good thing.  We don’t want conflict in our relationship.  Conflict is hard work and it tears us apart.” I understand. Whether we’re coaching with a couple, I’m coaching with an executive, or in Communication Excellence training with a corporate team, reducing conflict is often one… Read more »

Commitment To Your Relationship: Close The Escape Hatch – NOW

I invite you to be totally honest with yourself.  On a scale from 1 to 10, what is your commitment to your relationship now – to make it thrive, no matter what (1 means not committed at all, and 10 means totally in)? My perception from watching what happens with couples in society, and with… Read more »

Relationship Training? Why Not?

Relationship training in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic? Why not? Many people are having much more time at home, with their partner, and possibly with kids. (check out the video below) Whether you are in “work-from-home” mode, reduced hours, laid off, or simply because other public events and activities aren’t allowed, this could be… Read more »

Social Distancing: What’s In Your Control?

We are living in interesting times – unprecendented in my lifetime. With self-isolation, caution, and social distancing, what’s in your control? It is a time for prioritization and determining what is important, who are the most significant relationships, and focusing on ensuring high-quality time together. Social distancing can create huge opportunities. Check this out for… Read more »

Volunteer As A Couple? Why?

Volunteer? Voluteer as a couple? Why in the world would anyone do that? No money in that? Good question, and you’ll gain a perspective in the video below. Carol and I volunteer in the range of 10 – 20 hours per week (individually or together). It is an incredibly valuable experience to support our community… Read more »

How Do You Add Fun To Your Relationship?

“Fun in your relationship? What d’ya mean?” I thought that was an interesting response to my question during a coaching session. It is so important to keep some spice, spontaneity, and pizzazz alive – so it doesn’t get boring. It also makes it easier to focus on what’s strong; rather than what’s wrong. What are… Read more »

The Miracle of Marriage – Or Is It? 4 communication basics for any relationship

Does something miraculous happen when two people get married?  Or is it the communication within the marriage that breeds success? Hmmm? We have two amazing sons, Jamie and Brad. They are incredibly intelligent, creative, kind, respectful, and accountable – leaders in their communities and in our world.  Despite our parental foibles, we must have done… Read more »

Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret

“Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened.  I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments.  Results clearly show they do… Read more »